not "lucky to be adopted" Archives - Transracial Journeys https://www.transracialjourneys.org/blog/tag/not-lucky-to-be-adopted/ Thu, 06 Mar 2025 22:14:43 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 https://www.transracialjourneys.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/cropped-Logo-Flare520x520-32x32.jpg not "lucky to be adopted" Archives - Transracial Journeys https://www.transracialjourneys.org/blog/tag/not-lucky-to-be-adopted/ 32 32 Preparing: Adoption Microaggressions… Lucky Me?  https://www.transracialjourneys.org/blog/transracial-adoption-be-ready/ Mon, 03 Mar 2025 22:49:34 +0000 https://www.transracialjourneys.org/?p=2733 Being Prepared as a Transracial Family Have you had strangers ask inappropriate questions of you and your family? “Is she/he/them yours?” “Where are they from?”  “Your child is SO lucky”. These invasive questions are part of being a family that does not match and where differences of race are obvious to the world around you. It is important to be prepared for these intrusions. March Pro-Tip to Foster Conversations About Transracial Adoptions At Transracial Journeys we send our families conversation read more

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]]> Sharp Edges of Exclusion that Come with Adoption, Family Separation and Differences of Race https://www.transracialjourneys.org/blog/exclusion-adoption-family-separation-differences-of-race/ Mon, 25 Mar 2024 23:12:46 +0000 https://www.transracialjourneys.org/?p=4465 by TRJ Executive Director, April Dinwoodie “Where is she from?” “Does she look like her dad?” “Do you know who her real parents are?”  These and other questions came hard and fast at my mom and me when we were out in a world that wants us to match and did not understand the realities of adoption, family separation, and the impact of trauma that comes with both.   As a kid, I never quite understood why folks were so interested read more

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]]> March: Changing the Script on Adoption, Luck and Microaggressions https://www.transracialjourneys.org/blog/march-changing-the-script-on-adoption-luck-and-microaggressions/ Mon, 06 Mar 2023 12:53:12 +0000 https://www.transracialjourneys.org/?p=3798 by Avril McInally By now, many of you have probably experienced the “Lucky to be adopted” commentaries that society heaps upon adoptees and families formed or extended by adoption. It’s March, I’m thinking about St. Patrick’s Day with its accompanying themes of rainbows, pots of gold and luck. When I think about luck and I look back on my life, I’m struck by the intrusiveness of luck conversations which began occurring after I adopted my daughter. So many strangers have read more

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]]> The Luck Code https://www.transracialjourneys.org/blog/the-luck-code/ Tue, 01 Mar 2022 19:03:35 +0000 https://www.transracialjourneys.org/?p=2749 It’s March! The spring equinox/first day of spring is on March 20 and March is Women’s History Month. It’s also St. Patrick’s Day on March 17 - a day when “everyone is Irish” and, more than any other time of the year, “luck” is in the air. For families formed by adoption, there’s a type of “code talk” surrounding the concept of luck. If I had a dollar for every time a stranger told my child how lucky she was read more

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